Impoliteness in language.

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Welcome to our second post.. After you know us very well from “ H.E.L.L.O”, lets look on the second task, entitled Impoliteness. Generally, impoliteness could be defined as impolite linguistic behavior can be seen as speech acts that attack the face of another, especially during a conversation. For a layman to understand impoliteness, we could simplify this as a conduct of disrespect in certain emotional situation. But, we will narrow down this topic into impoliteness in language amongst youths nowadays, since impoliteness is a broad topic to be discussed.

Why do we choose this element of a wide topic of impoliteness ? Because there’s a disconcerting new trend among youths; they are increasingly becoming compulsive users of bad language. A section of our youth feels that using wrong grammar or imitating aggressive ‘ghetto’ or ‘gangsta’ speeches and talking in a tough manner with others makes them sounds “cool”. Well, for them, they want to look much more "cool" and "stylo", following the current trends among their friends. For example, we could look into these a few sentences :

1) Yo man, what the hell are you doing ?!

2) Shit, I missed my bus again !

3) Why did you called last night, asshole ?!

What the F*** !

The other aspect, which is much more worrying, is the common use of abusive and obscene words in everyday conversations. Ugly words and expressions, that were considered rude in polite company are cropping up regularly in youngsters’ conversations, regardless of who they are talking to; it could be their friends and family, or strangers and co-workers.

Why do this problem becomes more threatening and poisoning the early age of adult or simply the "maturing period" for the youth ? One reason why youngsters are fond of using crude language is to fit in with the majority and appear smart and worldly-wise. Profanity is so common in films and TV programs, it doesn’t raise eyebrows anymore. Earlier, a lot of abusive language in movies used to get censored or ‘bleeped’ out on TV, but it seems that these days the tolerance level has gone up on the part of the authorities and the audience. Even though films are still graded for viewing and TV programs still silence bad language, yet it is easy to make out — and in the case of young people — pick up what is being said.

Most often, it is the lead characters who are portrayed using bad language. This makes young people feel it is smart and glamorous to use bad language in the course of their conversation. It is no coincidence that some of the first words learners of English as a second language pick up from watching movies or TV or listening to popular music are swear words.

This become more serious for the youth that are still in college or university, while they are free to behave in such manner that they feel is the most appreciated by people around them.

poisoning the learning atmosphere

poisoning the learning atmosphere

Yet, young people, who spend a good part of their day online, have coined a whole lexicon of impolite words which they consider humorous. These words are used in text messages and online conversations, on social networking sites and online forums, and out of force of habit even in real life conversations. And a lot of youngsters have adopted this crude vocabulary without any second thoughts or feelings of guilt.

As a result, while their language had become worst, their thoughts will change and eventually their way of behavior will also change. So, when their conversation get more "rough" or aggressive, they tends to do things in a sarcastic way. For an example, a person might say wrong words unintentionally, or misspelled something. As the result, a person without politeness would end up with using force or physical action, such as kicking him or yell at him in a very bad manner. While it wont stop until this limit, it could cause the person to accept more challenge-able action that goes against the rules and norm. This kind of teenagers will be more prone to be involved in speed driving (also drink and drive), stealing cars from various locations, cross railway lines without any fear or for that matter destroy anyone’s personal property. It is said that boys will be boys and for that matter they act as a macho and do stuff that may attract many feminine eyes. On the other hand, teenage girls too are involved in many rebellious acts such as staying out late night without the permission of their parents and also taking up drug.

Impoliteness in communication could end up in a very bad physical action.

The most effective way to get the youth to act politely, the elders should promote a good example, to treat them with respect and also to let them see you act respectfully towards other people. We do strongly believe that, ‘actions speak louder than words’.

The parents should play their role, to let their child know exactly what behaviour is not acceptable by including statements about respectful behaviour in their house rules. For instance, “No swearing”, “at dinner time, we sit nicely at the table”. While this could be extended into a next strong level of impoliteness prevention. The parents should explain to their child about social manners by giving continual, gentle reminders about appropriate communication and behaviour. When adults provide clear information about appropriate behaviour, children learn what is expected of them. For example, “When you leave a friend’s house, it’s good to say ‘thank you for having me’. People like it when you do that”. Or, “When I’m talking to someone I expect you to wait until I’ve finished before asking me a question, or if you’re finding it hard to wait you could say ‘excuse me’.

Another way to deal with the behaviors of youths is to introduce them with the limitations as well as merits and demerits of any issue at an early age. In fact, kids are in a better position to understand and obey parents than the youths. Yet, its hard for the parents to set limits when they've become elder, as one cannot set limits on them when they are growing old. It is obvious that kids when transformed to adults are used to the limits.

awww. that's not cute !

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